Meeting Your Potential Date

Meeting Your Potential Date

         Which is the better way to meet potential mates, in person or through online dating? We see so many websites that say many people meet there perfect match through their websites and that they are happy together. In my opinion it is better to meet someone through online dating for the fact that its easy to meet them, you get to see how they communicate with you through online, and you get to see the person, can feel a connection from the first hello, and you see how they act when they first meet you. This allows you to freely speak to many individuals and let you decide who best suits you and meet someone based on your decisions.

         There are many things we get from traditional dating like real time conversations. We get to hear the persons voice and hear their different tones that they have. We don’t have to be guessing or wondering how the person might feel or sound and we get to see the different faces the other person makes while talking. There’s less room for misinterpretations when we are having a real time conversation with another individual. You can also tell if the person is interested in you while they are speaking to you. You see if the person is making direct eye contact with you or if their eyes are wandering elsewhere.

        

         When it comes to finding a potential mate it can be quite difficult due to bust schedules or we can never just find the person anywhere. In article titled “Dating Stats You Should Know”, by Meredith Broussard, she stated that 44 percent of adult americans are single. Broussard also stated that “40 million Americans use online dating services; thats about 40 percent of our entire U.S. single-people pool.” Thats many people using online dating services and enough people for someone to meet a potential mate.

         When using any sort of online dating website there are so many advantages to it. You can choose from so many people and profiles that you think you may have personal connection with, or even if you just want to talk to someone based on looks. We can easily access online dating within the 24 hours of a day. Also some websites provide you with certain tools that can help you get easily connected with people of similar interest. You can view profiles and decided whether you think you can connect with that person or not.

         You can be introduced to someone through things in common based on the profile you build on a dating site. Also you can tell from the very beginning if you feel something between you and the other person based on what you see. In many dating sites like they have a spot for the person to write a little bit about themselves like a mini blog. There you can write things that give a brief description of themselves and your not limited to what you can say. This gives people a big advantage to see if they are interested in same thing as them if not they can skip them and move to the next profile.

         There is so much selectivity that one can make when finding a match on the internet and We can select the people we want to speak with in person. There can be instant connection from that very first message, or call based on exchange of phone numbers. There are many websites where you can create a profile wether its based on gender, race, or ethnicity. You can create a profile on christianmingle.com, blackpeoplemeet.com, and just regular match.com. You can practically meet anybody in you can think of on the internet. Another great thing about dating websites is that not everyone there is looking to find someone to be there perfect mate but rather looking for someone to be able to talk with. In an article by Jenna Worthman in the New York Times titled “Looking for a Date? A Site Suggests You Check the Data”, “I’m not into that. I don’t want the father of my children. I just want someone who can carry a conversation and is interesting.” We can see how finding someone on a dating websites can come in many forms such as just a good friend or the love of your life.

         When meeting the person from the dating website can be nerve racking because of all the hype build up from talking to them through emails, text messages, or even phone calls. Once the time comes there’s no hiding how old you look, how our physical appearance is, or hiding the small weird things we do. We can see how that person might act around us and might see something that attracts us to them or it can also be the complete opposite and we might find that person completely unattractive. After the date we can decide wether their was a connection or if we just move on to the next profile on our list.

         I have talked to a couple of my friends about how they feel about online dating getting interesting responses many of them said that they know someone or have actually met an old boyfriend or girlfriend through an online dating website. My friend Gerson told me that his wife’s sister actually met her husband through an online dating website. He told me that they just began by talking on through messages off the dating website, then text messages, and through phone calls. After a small amount time there conversations got so interesting that they actually decided to meet in person and hit it off.

         Another example of online dating actually helping someone meet a mate online is my sister. Little did I know my sister met her soon to be husband through an online dating website. I had asked her some questions like what does she think about online dating and she told me “I like it. That’s actually how I met Nelson.” Nelson is her fiancé.  Not knowing this earlier really showed me that my only family has grown because of online dating working.

         In conclusion we can see how in online dating has more advantages that old fashioned dating. It helps people with a very busy schedules that don't have enough time to go out and meet people and helps you find people with similar interest. Helps people to find someone based on similar beliefs and ethnicities. We’ve seen testimonials of people who have met their life partner because of dating websites. 

Works Cited

       Broussard, Meredith. "Dating Stats You Should Know." Numbers about Love That Make a Difference. Math.com, 2011. Web. 25 May 2014.

Lynch, William, and Demand Media. "Traditional Dating Vs Online Dating." Science. Opposing Views. Web. 20 May 2014.

Spira, Julie. "Online Dating Vs. Offline Dating: Pros and Cons." The Huffington Post. TheHuffingtonPost.com, 03 Oct. 2013. Web. 19 May 2014.

         Wortham, Jenna. "Looking for a Date? A Site Suggests You Check the Data." The New York Times. The New York Times, 12 Feb. 2010. Web. 24 May 2014.